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A. FOR UNEXPECTED DEATH, E.G. MOTOR ACCIDENT
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Personal contact of relative/s, preferably by doctor.
Be well-prepared: check facts, plan approach.
Use suitable quiet private room (not to be disturbed).
Provide empathy, support, understanding, sensitivity.
Be honest, direct.
Allow time, opportunities to react and question.
Allow silence, touching and free expression of emotions.
Allow viewing of a dead or injured body.
Provide appropriate follow-up and ongoing support.
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B. FOR SHARING BAD PERSONAL NEWS (TABLE B2)
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Plan the consultation, check facts, set aside ample time.
Meet in an appropriate room with privacy and no interruption.
Ask the patient if they would like company (e.g. a relative or friend).
Make good eye contact and be alert for non-verbal responses.
Use simple, understandable language.
Be honest and diplomatically to the point (don’t cover up the issue).
Allow time, silence, tears or anger.
Avoid inappropriate methods (refer to ‘Don’ts’ above) and don’t give precise predictions about life expectancy.
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BEREAVEMENT AND COPING WITH LOSS
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Bereavement or grief is the emotional response to loss, with a complex amalgam of anger, sadness, helplessness, guilt, yearning and despair.
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The usual normal stages are:
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Shock or disbelief: hrs to days
Grief and yearning: 6 wks +
Despair—social withdrawal, sadness, hopelessness: ~6 mths 2–3 include anger, guilt and self-blame
Adaptation and acceptance, includes: apathy, depression, physical ailments: 1 or more yrs
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Provide basic counselling and ongoing support.
Provide patient hand-outs.
Refer to grief counsellor, religious groups, support groups, e.g. SIDS.
Watch for morbid or pathological grief.
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feel very guilty
be angry towards you or others
need a clear, gentle explanation about cause and manner of death
need to sense you are genuinely interested
need to work through stages of grief